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For years I thought seduction was something bad. Something “bad” men did to”sweet”  innocent women. Seduction in my mind was manipulative and corrupt. Seduction was “taking advantage” of a woman, tricking her into having sex with a man against her will.

So if I held that belief as a shy guy, of course I could do nothing  remotely sexy with a woman. I had to be a safe, boring “nice guy”. God forbid somebody suspect that I was actually attracted to women sexually (or know how to give a women and endless series of earth shattering orgasms)!

It’s like I thought that in order to be successful with women, I had to be a bad person. I didn’t want to be a bad person so I choose to be a frustrated chump. Can you relate to this at all?

Years of struggle and research later it really and finally dawned on me that:

1. Women want to be seduced. Seduction is the dance of desire that women are neurologically wired for.
2. Women love sex as much as guys do. In fact in most ways they are our sexual superior. They just want it in ways that are outside our male understanding. No one gave us the manual. For the average guy a woman’s “dials and gauges” are as complicated and intimidating as the cockpit of an F-16 fighter jet.
3. Men may get turned on by a woman’s looks, her body type. It’s a visual stimulus response that we’ve developed over our life time. Women are stimulated by words, by stories, by the way they feel around a certain man. By Energy.

The greatest gift you can give to a woman is to get over your old shy guy routine and learn how to stop worrying about yourself and what others think and start creating sensual and rich experiences for women…they way they want it.

One of the best sources of information about this is from a brilliant teacher and NLP trainer named Ross Jeffries. Now when I first heard about him I thought he was anti-relationship and just about helping guys get laid at the expense of integrity. I was wrong.

Again I was operating under the old belief that seduction was bad. Because Ross Jeffries is all about getting guys results. I have since learned that he is more than anything an advocate for a woman’s right to be able to feel the kinds of feelings most women long to feel but most guys are clueless about how to deliver.

For me personally, I recently had two experiences that “forced” me to take my own seduction skills to the next level.

1. I met a woman on match.com who I fell in love with and totally scared off because I was too honest and direct!
2. As consolation I chatted up a lovely barista in Starbucks and totally bumbled and blundered my way through trying to get her phone number.

Now in my new world view both of those experiences were successes because I actually did something other than what I used to do in my shy guy days.

But, the feedback I gave myself was. “Time to learn what to do with the ones I really want.” I was doing well with the women I wasn’t that interested in but the ones I really was attracted to? Crash and burn.

Enter Ross Jeffries.  I got his basic Speed Seduction Course and it has totally changed my outlook on dating, romance, seduction, women and relationships.

I’ll be exploring more of his work in future posts, but do yourself a favor and check this out now, get it and start immediately applying it. Let me know when you go ahead and choose to do it. I’m here to help with the process.

Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction

Mark Shepard

p.s. leave a comment below or e-mail me at mark [at]markshepard.com if you are interested in joining a ShyGuyHelp Seduction Master Mind so you can get ongoing support in this area of your life. – M

Welcome to Shy Guy Help!

This is a blog format website that is dedicated to helping shy guys like you overcome the crap that has held you back all your life. You know what I’m talking about:

• You see a pretty woman and you freeze.
• You get called on in class and you freeze.
• Most likely if you’ve ever been out on a date the woman iniatiated it.
• Many of you have never even been on a date much less lost your virginity.
• Or if you’ve dated and met a woman who actually seemed to want you, you took what you could get and got stuck in a relationship that is less than you’d dreamed of…but you stay because you either can’t face being alone or you’re afraid of hurting her…

Been there. Done that. It sucked.

Out of desperation, I learned some extremely powerful tools of transformation that I’ve used to blast through the shyness.  Faster than I ever thought possible. Once I was able to clear the fear and manage my needy awkwardness around women, I needed to learn how to actually communicate with them the way women truly want to be connected with. Honestly. Always now with the confidence that with or without a particular woman in my life I’m fine.

What would it be like to be the chooser?

What would it be like to be the kind of guy that women pine for and fantasize about their whole lives?

First we work on the inner game. We clear the old programs, doubts, false beliefs and habits of thought that keep you miserable.

Then we build step by step a solid foundation of empowered confidence with which to move out into the worlds with superior tools to meet, and seduce the kinds of women you want. Then we fine tune it thourhg the process of real relationship skills.

I’m excited to get started!

It’s something that nobody teaches us guys. We either see the pushy jerks who are always coming on to women and getting nothing but ridicule or scorn (don’t want to be like them). Or, we see the thoughtless bullies who treat women like objects and we don’t want to be like them either.

I can help you get through all the learning curves easily and rapidly so you will be exploring her curves in record time.

I’ve helped shy college guys and shy older guys. I’ve helped men and women of all ages in my NLP practice overcome anxiety, panic attacks, fear, phobias, self sabotage, low self esteem. Because I originally learned NLP, hypnosis and Time Line Therapy™ in order to overcome my own shyness and inability to meet and get to know the kinds of women I truly wanted, I “get” you more than most other coaches or therapists.

There’s lots of information out here on the web for how to date and seduce women. But none of it specifically addresses the shy man in such a way that you can overcome the terror that freezes you and causes you to shrink down and disappear. That’s what this blog is all about.

This is the very first post and a lot more is on the way and you will be too.

Mark Shepard, NLPT